Do you have a short temper? Your frustration feels like it can shoot from 1 to 10 like an explosion but you can’t control it. Perhaps you’re using drugs and stimulants to give you Dutch courage to feel brave and untouchable but instead it makes you behave out of the norm.
Has your temper gotten in the way of sustaining meaningful relationships with the people in your life? For example, people at work are bullying you which makes you angry but you feel like you have nowhere to turn. Maybe, you experienced a personal loss but never had a chance for closure and the pain carries on.
Anger comes easily when we feel hurt physically or emotionally. People cite a lack of self-worth, being misunderstood or not listened to. These feelings can lead to pent up frustration which turn into uncontrollable outbursts, before the person is overcome with shame. Outbursts can be a good outlet to vent our frustrations as keeping them suppressed can also affect your mental health negatively, but they need to be better managed.
People are unaware that anger is a secondary emotion and we use it to protect a vulnerable part of ourselves from being hurt. Counselling can help you explore what is really making you feel angry and support you with any pain, shame or abuse you may be suppressing.
If we can visualise anger as an iceberg: what we can see is the tip but what is really going on below could be a number of issues that have built up over time. For example, clients who choose to work with me, have reported that they find peace and awareness through our working relationship. This is because they feel they have gained back control of their emotions rather than letting their emotions control them.
You deserve to be at peace and feel safe. If there is one positive choice you can make today for certain, it would be seeking help through counselling.
According to the Office for National Statistics, depression is among the most common types of mental disorders experienced by adults in Great Britain. In fact, around 1 in 10 before the Covid-19 pandemic, but this has since more than doubled to over 2 in 5 adults.
Depression can affect people in different ways and can cause a wide variety of symptoms. These symptoms range from lasting feelings of unhappiness and hopelessness to losing interest in the things they used to enjoy and feeling very tearful. Do you continually feeling low and stuck with your emotions or unable to move forward? Maybe you have been to the doctor for help and been stuck on medication for quite some time.
Unfortunately, medication only temporarily masks the pain and after some time the body builds resistance to the medication, which means increasing the dosage to become effective again. Many of my clients tell me that they were referred to counselling by their GP because they saw how increasing the dosage is not a solution. Instead many of my clients have even reported that taking medication alongside counselling sessions has helped them to lift from this feeling of being stuck.
In counselling, you will work together with your counsellor in your therapy sessions. For example, I support each individual to explore their thoughts and what they can do to change their behaviour. It is important to feel that your counsellor will remain by your side with no judgement throughout your transitions of ups and downs.
Are you ready to plant some positive change back into your life? Consider speaking to your GP about seeking counselling.
Is being anxious always on your mind? Do you have this continuous uncomfortable feeling in the pit of your stomach?
Maybe you have experienced one or more of these symptoms: shortness of breath, headaches, dizziness, numbness, hot and cold flushes, and the tightening of your chest.
Perhaps you also keep asking yourself, “What if this?” or “What if that?” and they are affecting your behaviour. Better to do nothing you may think, but it stops you from moving forward or making a decision seems to be much harder. Then the cycle starts all over again.
Anxiety can make you feel trapped and make you struggle to build relationships at work or on a personal level. It can stop you from coping with daily tasks to the point where things are building up all around you.
By having a safe space and the chance to talk, you can find a way to overcome your anxiety and live a more self-assured and positive life.
Counselling is a good way to help you to break this cycle and give you hope that you can break down the fear you may fear. For example, in my role as a Person-Centred Counsellor, I will not only understand how you are feeling but I can also help you uncover the causes so that you can free yourself. I listen without judgement whilst always being honest with you so that you can freely express your thoughts and feelings.
You deserve to be happy and feel safe. If there is one sure positive choice you can make today, you could consider seeking help.