Do you have a short temper? Your frustration feels like it can shoot from 1 to 10 like an explosion but you can’t control it. Perhaps you’re using drugs and stimulants to give you Dutch courage to feel brave and untouchable but instead it makes you behave out of the norm.
Has your temper gotten in the way of sustaining meaningful relationships with the people in your life? For example, people at work are bullying you which makes you angry but you feel like you have nowhere to turn. Maybe, you experienced a personal loss but never had a chance for closure and the pain carries on.
Anger comes easily when we feel hurt physically or emotionally. People cite a lack of self-worth, being misunderstood or not listened to. These feelings can lead to pent up frustration which turn into uncontrollable outbursts, before the person is overcome with shame. Outbursts can be a good outlet to vent our frustrations as keeping them suppressed can also affect your mental health negatively, but they need to be better managed.
People are unaware that anger is a secondary emotion and we use it to protect a vulnerable part of ourselves from being hurt. Counselling can help you explore what is really making you feel angry and support you with any pain, shame or abuse you may be suppressing.
If we can visualise anger as an iceberg: what we can see is the tip but what is really going on below could be a number of issues that have built up over time. For example, clients who choose to work with me, have reported that they find peace and awareness through our working relationship. This is because they feel they have gained back control of their emotions rather than letting their emotions control them.
You deserve to be at peace and feel safe. If there is one positive choice you can make today for certain, it would be seeking help through counselling.